Here are some strategies for setting clear expectations:

1. Be specific
Avoid being vague. Clear, specific expectations are easier for children to understand and follow. Instead of saying, "Be good," specify what being good means. For example, "we need to listen when someone is talking".

2. Frame your expectations positively
Use language that focuses on what your child should do rather than what they should not do. For example, instead of saying, "Don't interrupt," say, "Raise your hand to speak."

3. Consistent consequences
Consistency is key. Ensure that the consequences for not meeting expectations are predictable and consistently applied. This helps children understand the importance of following rules. Acknowledge and praise your child when they meet expectations. This would encourage them to continue displaying desired behaviours. Likewise, you should be specific in your praises. Instead of saying "Good Job", "Well Done", you can say "Good Job, I like that you shared your toys nicely with your peers".

4. Involve your child in setting expectations
This not only gives them a sense of ownership but also helps them understand the reasons behind the rules.

5. Break down tasks into smaller, manageable steps
Instead of saying, "Clean your room," say, "Put your toys in the bin, books on the shelf, and clothes in the hamper."

6. Use charts or lists to visually display expectations
For younger children, pictures can be effective. Place these reminders in common areas like the kitchen or their bedroom.